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Should Christians Use Sex Toys?
This seems to be a huge issue in today's society. From a purely religious perspective the answer would at first appear to be a very simple NO. Upon closer examination the question becomes much more complicated.
For Christians, first and foremost is the concept of monogamy. Well, sex toys do not have to interfere with the concept of monogamy. So, perhaps they are ok. But to bring even conversation about sex up in a Christian environment makes most people in the room squirm and probably change the subject.
Experiencing a satisfying sex life makes you more likely to stay monogamous. Experimenting with sex toys leads to a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Couple that use sex toys are more likely to enjoy sex and to have sex more often. It would seem logical that those wanting their marriage to last would welcome sex toys with open arms. Unfortunately just the opposite is true.
When Masters and Johnson first pioneered the groundbreaking sex survey beginning in 1957 one of the main things that they discovered was that the general public does NOT want to talk about their sex life. One on one people might, in a private setting, be willing to discuss intimate details. In a crowded room of strangers it is a subject that is often laughed about but hardly ever discussed in detail. In churches it is even more carefully discussed. Or, fearfully discussed. Women want to avoid being labeled a harlot for having any sexual desire. Men are concerned about what people will think as well. The huge discovery that came out of Master's and Johnson's research was that most women in 1957 were not experiencing orgasm. Since that discovery many books have been written on the subject. These are not the books that most good Christians feel comfortable discussing in church.
The main concept that was focussed upon over and over was that if a woman were to experience the ultimate pleasure she would find it easier and easier to experience it again. The second main concept was that missionary position was not the ultimate way to please a woman. In fact it did relatively little to please a woman. Third, and most important, is the idea that using a simple vibrating device most women could eventually learn to experience the ultimate pleasure.
Are Christian men having orgasms? Yep, you betcha. But is their wife? Are these same men willing to experiment with a "toy" for the pleasure of their wife? Most, it seems from the survey that we did, are not. So here we are right back in 1957.
If a Christian relationship is meant to last a lifetime then you would think that it should be open minded enough to keep things fresh and exciting. Christian couples should be open to improving their sex life. This should be an area that both partners constantly focus on and work towards keeping things fresh, new and exciting. Here are some great ideas that open minded Christians may use to spice up intimacy within your Christian relationship:
Be Willing to Experiment with Christian Sex Toys and Intimacy Aids
This can be as simple as erotic massage oils and candles as a thoughtful way to add variety to your intimacy. If you are both willing to experiment, then an intimacy aid from http://www.ChristianSexToy.com might change your marriage and your life. This is a great way to automatically change things up or add another level of intimacy to your relationship, This does not have to be complicated, obscene, or anything elaborate. What is most important is that you both talk about what you would be comfortable experimenting with.
Christian Intimacy Guides...
The single most important thing that any Christian Couple can discover is that other Christian Couples want to keep their marriage alive and exciting. Finding out that there is information available for couples that share the same desires will help enlighten both husbands and wives that they are not alone. A great way to increase your level of intimacy and add variety within your relationship, is by getting a Christian sex manual which will show dozens of different techniques, tips and tricks to apply specifically to sexuality in a Christian marriage. This awareness and knowledge can be the catalyst to a huge change in increasing your frequency and enjoyment of sex.
Information and knowledge can as serve as a constant source for applying variety towards your intimacy. Manuals and guides can give you an outline of all the accepted positions and practices within a Christian marriage.
Christian Approved Sexual Positions...
The quickest and easiest change to your relationship is simply learning some of the various positions that have been discovered over eternities. Learning some of these can be a way to increase variety in your sex life in both the act of learning together and engaging in new intimate positions. While you can do this simply by "making up your own" there are some positions that are very specific for pleasure and others for partners that have certain limitations. You will probably want to do some research in your guides for positions that are acceptable within the Christian community. Learning new positions together allows you to utilize them safely and enjoyably.
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